Canada isn’t better than Mexico. You make your own paradise, or your own hell…
“The mind is its own place, and in itself can make a heaven of hell, a hell of heaven..”
― John Milton, Paradise Lost
I never moved to Canada escaping Mexico.
In fact, I never moved to any country I have lived in (Spain, France, England) escaping Mexico. I have always moved chasing my dreams and seeking new horizons. I say this because I know tonnes of Mexicans who have moved to the US or Canada escaping Mexico. There are, for certain, many, many things that are wrong with Mexico. But there are just as many or more that are wrong with Canada.
There is no paradise.
There, I said it.
The John Milton quote (a quote I learned from my Dad since I was like 6 or 7 years old) has remained stuck in my brain, and has been part of my philosophy of life all the time. Even when I was heartbroken, and I had been cheated on, I made the best of what I could do with what I had. I moved to Mexico in an attempt to heal because a Canadian broke my heart. I worked in academia during the time I lived in Mexico. And I flourished as an academic. And then I returned to Canada. And succeeded here as well.
Yes, there are amazing things in Canada. Some of the people I love the most live in Canada (do note, however, that many of them aren’t born-Canadians – they live there, just like I did, as immigrants – that said, I do love A LOT of born-Canadians – some of my best friends were born in Canada). I owe Canada a lot, as a professor, as an academic, as a human being. But I also owe Mexico a lot. And Spain, and France, and England, and the US, and everywhere where I have left.
I strongly believe that you make your own paradise or hell. I am living grand in Mexico the same way I lived grand in Canada: by making the most of what I have. Not by chasing what I don’t have, but by being happy with what I have and where I am. That’s why adapting to my new life here hasn’t been as difficult: because I know that even living in Canada I would have to deal with bureaucracy, with stupid people, etc. But there are so many amazing things here, maybe just as many as in Canada.
It just takes time to find them.